Drake may be one of the biggest stars with one of the most popular albums (as of my writing this) in If You're Reading This It's Too Late, but that doesn't means he's safe from being played in a public setting. While there are many hilarious instances to point to in this regard—remember this fall?—the latest may be the most groan-inducing of the bunch. According to Bro Bible, the rapper/singer reportedly got into what he wanted to be a steamy sexting convo with porn star Mia Khalifa over Instagram. She said that he sent over a very revealing photo of himself while adding that she felt the whole thing was "very cringeworthy." Unfortunately, that's all we know about it. However, Drizzy's experience can serve as more than just a LOL-worthy moment, because we can all learn from his sexting mistakes. Here are sev eral tips you need to keep in mind the next time you think about picking up your phone to send someone an explicit photo, message, or combination of the two.
Make Sure You Trust The Person
This may seem obvious—and, really, it is—but you really need to make sure you trust the person who's receiving your sex-filled messages. According to these survey results, an overwhelming amount of the 1,000 men and women polled revealed that they sext. And of those, 6 percent said that they have shared sexts they have received, meaning they have shown them to their friends. That may not seem like a lot of people, but any amount of sharing like that can be a problem if the wrong person sees it. In commenting on the survey, sexpert Dr. Kat Van Kirk stressed that sexting is a completely healthy part of any relationship, but sharing those messages? That's a major violation of trust.
Basically, it all comes down to this: Don't send sexts to someone you think will share them with other people. Also, don't be the person who shares those sexts, because you'll just end up looking like an asshole. Also, as explained in this article, those shared sexts, particularly if they're photos, can get in the wrong hands and lead to serious public exposure (pun sadly intended).
Hide Your Face
Like the above tip, this is one that should go without saying, but it's far too important to just assume everyone is following it. So here goes: Do not send explicit photos with your face in them. Just don't do it, ever, OK? Now, some guides to sexting will tell you that it's up to you to include your face or not, such as this one from Mashable. In fact, they even placed it at the top of their list of how to sext safely! Personally, I'd argue that making sure you trust the other person is more important, but I digress.
Yes, it's up to you whether or not you ant your face to be in the photo, but in doing so you're also taking a huge risk. Actually, you're making an already risky practice (sexting) that much riskier by providing evidence that it's you in the scandalous photo. It's 99 percent likely that the other person has seen your face already and knows what you look like, so why roll the dice like that when you don't have to?
Don't Give It All Away
For the third and final sexting tip, I have one that may not be for everybody. That's not to say that one and all shouldn't follow it, because you should. However, just like with telling you to keep your face out of photos, I know some people aren't going to abide by the idea of playing it cool when sending sexts. Now, the very nature of a sext is to send something dirty with the hopes of receiving something equally filthy in return.
That all being said, this article has a good point in telling readers to be "coy" when sending sexts. That is, you shouldn't give it all away in a virtual sense. There are, of course, some exceptions to this rule, namely long-distance relationships. But if you're going to see someone in a few hours or days, you should probably dial it back a bit. For one, you may scare away the person on the other end, and you may also virtually "blow your load," so to speak. It's fine to be enthusiastic about seeing the other person and enjoying everything that comes with their company, but you don't have to put it all out there to make that happen.
So there you have it, three rules you should follow the next time you pick up your phone with dirty thoughts running through your mind.